Microaggressions

Don’t Call Me White!

2021-03-24T04:40:23+00:00

"Don’t Call Me White!" Q: How do we address/what can we do to address the language and logic of micro-aggressions being appropriated by members of the dominant class, for example white folks talking about receiving micro-aggressions from (legitimately) angry or insistent POC? A:  The question above asked by a participant in my microaggressions course reminded me of an interaction that happened during a retreat some years ago.  Two couples at the retreat who had been close friends asked me to mediate a conflict. The older couple – a man and woman, were both white.  The younger couple, a [...]

Don’t Call Me White!2021-03-24T04:40:23+00:00

Where Are You From?

2018-09-29T14:50:38+00:00

"Where Are You From?" Q: I just started a new job. When I asked a coworker of Asian descent where they were from, they glared at me and said that was a microaggression. I was just trying to break the ice and don’t understand why they were upset. A:  I’m guessing your coworker’s response was pretty confusing to you? I can imagine you were looking for an easy topic to introduce to get to know another person? Wanting to show interest and friendliness in the hopes of building connection in a new setting? I can imagine if those guesses [...]

Where Are You From?2018-09-29T14:50:38+00:00

You’re So Articulate!

2018-08-27T08:11:07+00:00

"You're so articulate!" Q: I’m a dark skinned, black person with college educated parents and a college degree. I'm met again and again with surprise from white people about the way I talk and the assumption that it means something about my intelligence and my character. What can I say to them that would begin to open their eyes to the fact that their assumptions are racist? A: I’m hearing how deeply frustrated you feel that people are surprised when you speak in a way they don’t assume is typical of black people. I can imagine so many reasons for your [...]

You’re So Articulate!2018-08-27T08:11:07+00:00
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